any to start back up. 12 days ago I became an official empty nester with my baby moving out and down into California with her fiancee. I did spend the first 2 days crying my eyes out and unable to talk about it for the first week. The thought of being 44 years old with both children out of the house scares me so much. What do I do with my life ? All the purpose, structure and schedules are gone .... all gone !!! Then I started to focus on the things that make me in insecure, like ... I am 44 and not married, I'm fat, where am I going in my life, I don't want to grow old alone .... gaaaaad. So my goal is to set small goals and finish them. I do go out with my friends and put myself out there quite a bit so I have to just keep my doors open ... so much easier said than done !! ... One day at a time !